Jealousy

Is jealousy normal? Is it a 'natural man' thing, or is it something that is beyond that? Are there certain things that are 'okay' to be jealous of? Is it just persons that threaten your marriage (or boy-/girl-friendship) that are okay to be jealous of? Are there productive ways to display jealousy? If so, what are they?

I have not always been jealous, but, when I got engaged, and later married, I felt like I had a free pass to be jealous. Is it that I had a claim on someone that I had never felt before? In my earlier relationships, if I sensed competition, I just backed off. I hadn't had a relationship where I had total security with my place. But once I did, so I began to assume that everyone is after what I had? Was my husband the only awesome catch out there? Was he really even that awesome to everyone, or had love tinted, with rose color, my view of him?

The things I am jealous of are - women that find my man fascinating and want to pick his brain (Uh, ladies, that's MY brain to pick...); crazy involved conversation online that don't just take the actual time to be a part of, but a plethora of time used to think and analyze.

Which brings me to a new point - something that has come about with the invention of blogs and other online venues. In history, you had to discuss things at certain times and in certain places. Usually, one thinks later, 'Ah, I could've said ____.' Or '____ would've been a good point.' These types of 'epiphanies' still happen with face to face conversations. But now, we have days to talk about one topic. Is it bad? No, but it is unique.